I like to plan. If you know anything about the Myers-Briggs personality test, I’m an INFJ. I need everything planned out – in order – so I can have a handle on all moving parts. Lists are a must. And oh my goodness the spreadsheets! I do love me some spreadsheets! With color coordination! Things though don’t always work out as planned. I hate change and I hate spontaneity; both cause me anxiety. Being a business owner (and living life), however, bring up both, so I’ve learned to deal with these as best as I can.
As of the last few months, my business made a big change. I formed an LLC with my business partner, Eryn (check out her blog https://softanimalwisdom.wordpress.com/), and we’ll be moving into a bigger office soon. She and I work well together because we complement each other’s strengths. She’s also a list maker which works well for trying to get things done! Despite our best planning, our many many many lists, and our diligence, things have NOT gone according to plan. At all. Therein lies the lesson I’ve been learning these past few months. Patience, trust, and sitting with ambiguity. We’ve learned that other businesses don’t have standards as high as ours. We’ve learned that others don’t have the same urgency to get things done like we do. And we’ve learned that things take way longer than expected.
As I’ve been reflecting on the past month’s craziness, it reminds me of lessons which horses have taught me over the years. Horses live in the moment. They are not on human time-tables. Humans, however, often have agendas, time restraints, and a multi-tasking brain.
Human: It will take 5 minutes to go get my horse from the field.
Horse: It will take 30 minutes because I’m on the opposite end of the field and you’re gonna have to chase me.
Shelley and Eryn – We’ll look at a bunch of bigger offices and be able to find one in a month.
Universe: Make that 4 months.
Human: It will take me 15 minutes to groom my horse.
Horse: It will take you an hour because I rolled in mud.
Shelley and Eryn – We need to pick out paint and carpet samples for the space to be ready on October 1st.
Universe – The city still needs to approve the construction permit so the space won’t be done until November 1st.
Human – In the next half hour ride, we’re going to work on collection and canter transitions.
Horse – In the next half hour you’ll struggle to get me to relax because I can feel your stress, anxiety, and irritability.
Shelley and Eryn – In the next week, we need to do A, B and C.
Universe – And X, Y, Z, #65, √3, ♣, Ω… and be sure to do it all during your evenings and weekends.
The thing with horses is if we learn to just be in the moment, and go with it, there is less frustration because there’s no expectations. If there’s no expectations, we aren’t disappointed. Now that’s not to say we should be completely agenda-less, but it’s allowing the ebb and flow of whatever comes up. Obviously with running a business, we can’t be agenda-less either. And while I can’t quite say I’m totally anxiety free, I’m getting better at sitting with the ambiguity in that whatever happens will happen…and it will all work out in the end. The space will be ready, although not when originally planned. We’ll move the current office, although it will be on my birthday weekend. We’ll be in a temporary space for about two weeks until the new office is ready, and even though that isn’t ideal, we’ll make it work.
Hopefully, in another month, Inner Path Counseling and Wellness will officially have its new office space. Unless something else comes up. And if it does, we’ll take a deep breath, go with it, and figure out a solution. We’ll also add it to the list of gaffs that we’ll look back on, shake our heads, laugh, and wonder how we got through it all.
Eryn and I after doing the paperwork for the LLC. Inner Path Counseling and Wellness was official!
Cassie helped us pick out flooring this week.
Business cards are done!
Topic for next month – Self care!